It has been seen that the relationships are generally fine as long as the woman partner looks good, is young and healthy. It has been found that males reject/leave women more easily if they are either physically compromised, disabled, or become old. Men tend to re-marry, find a mate as soon as woman partner id either dead or disabled. In such case what can the rejected partner do. Here are some tips for nurture:
- Always consult a qualified medical practitioner /counselor for the extent, seriousness, prognosis, treatment, management of your disease/disability/limitation.
- Learn to accept and emotionally adjust to the disease/disability.
- Find support: groups/family/friend/spouse/partner.
- Explain your disease/ disability/ its effects/ treatment/prognosis to your partner. He/she may be equally scared.
- Provide comfort/ give emotional space in the relationship for a considerable period of time.
- Do not bring out or red flag a situation when in this phase. Sleep over it in order to find a better solution /understanding of a difficult relationship issue.
- Do not mix up issues.for example he may be having erectile dysfunction due to stress, ill-health and other medical conditions. Do not bring out aggressive situations where issues are mixed.
- Always make looking good a part of your daily routine.Physical appeal and appearance has been found to be a major factor in bonding/man to woman relationships.Gays or same sex relationships are far more nurturing especially in male to male because the dominant role is always sexually oriented.
- It has been found that woman to man relationships are more prone to separation stresses because the male takes a power/ punish/ i will divorce you syndrome.
- In male to female relationship woman always has to take the subservient/conformist/do as he pleases role.
- This role is confused with nurturing/giving/ "good" wife and partner role.
- Woman has to bear the stresses alone . She cannot "talk back" to spouse. This is very common , almost a "good behavior" in Indian subcontinent especially in Muslims.Islamic religion grants /permits male dominance/ power structure/gender bias.
- Learn to talk to your spouse/ mate more about the health/ disability in a positive way saying things like "we will be doing this together".
- Learn to stay more fit with your condition with exercise/ yoga/ meditation/other support.
- Find your favorite pastime/ hobbies/enjoy and learn to emotionally accept your disease/ handicap/disability.
- Find yourself/ your own pleasure/ pastime/ hobby.
- Nurture your own self.It has been found that people who look after themselves first in a nurturing way are in a better position to nurture/give to others.
- Find your favorite pastime and enjoy. This may be singing, dancing,music, painting, poetry, teaching, caring, giving, helping.
- Take control of your emotions/health, disease / disability.
- You are the Queen/King of your own little world. Be happy.Find support and treatment of mental conditions such as depression.
- Aways exercise and workout.